You can't live long enough to make them all yourself. ranty rant rant rantingness : comments.
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Definitely agree with the brain can't be rewired thing. Chances are aspergers masculinised my brain a great deal to start off with (I mean, autism is occasionally described as a hyper-masculine brain in terms of its traits) but arguing that you can 'cure' it leads to the conclusion that you can also change my gender to female, that I'm just delusional.
Incidentally, my psychiatrist did offer, but that's only because their Melbourne clinic was being sued by someone who lost their family because they transitioned (and probably were an arsehole about it... MtFs tend to demand 'accept me or else' of their wives, FtMs tend to go 'uh... accept me? Please? No? *sigh* I knew it...' They were MtF). My reply was 'no', because it wouldn't be me after they'd finished, and since I'm of the opinion you can't rewire a brain it'd be more like repressing the self.
It must be weird finding out as an adult you've got autism, I've known since I was 12. I didn't realise quite what it meant for another year, but even so... My Dad found out age 40, now he uses it to blame everything he's ever done wrong. Doesn't quite realise that autistic or not, arseholes are just arseholes. :-)
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i beleive that gender identity is more complex than most people imagine. i'm not yet convinced that aspieness is 'hyper-maleness' - though aspies do end up with 'exaggerated' 'masculine' traits. a few thing si read recently suggest that aspies, on average, are more ambivalent or confused about their gender identity [this is contrary to my limited experience, but does make some sense]
offer to do what? drug you up for life? play hack'n'slash in your head?
again with my thesis that much of the problem is social. it should be expected that some individuals will feel their physical gender does not match the way they think&feel about themselves. the main reason people have problems with that concept is social conditioning. i do think it is important that those who desire surgical intervention undergo good psychological evaluation and preparation.
the working model i have of people is more flexible than most people's. that said, i'm less tolerant of 'social wankery' than most. if something is just plain stupid, i find it hard to put up with. [people should tell others what they mean, not play idiotic games. lifes' too short for that shit]
it was actually a relief to discover that the difficulties i was having were real, and not the result of me being a selfish prick. i've never seen these things as an excuse. the explaination (has helped | is helping) me to work through what i can do to adapt for others, and what i need from others.
as you say, some people are arseholes because they're arseholes.
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'drugs' might work, but you'd be taking hormones and psychoactives for life.
don't get me wrong, i've had it up to here with all the 'conforming to society' crap, but i'm of the opinion that people ought to be encouraged and assisted to find out and express who they actually are. the social games are important, but the claim that conformity for social cohesion does get taken too far. especially in a society that also claims that individual self-expression and self-discovery are valued and valuable.
the damn sheeple want us all to be mundanes. it's not very satisfying, and they get all silly when people 'discover' themselves and then do something about it when they're fortyish. if they'ed been allowed to find out and express/be themselves earlier, less mess would ensue.
methinks anyways.