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maelorin at 03:27pm on 21/06/2005
maelorin at 03:27pm on 21/06/2005some comments i made
today concerning parenting an aspie teenager ...
today concerning parenting an aspie teenager ...
in my experience as an aspie, the best thing you can do is get to know him and be there for him as a confidant.
and be prepared to stand up *with* him when others do things that make his life uneccessarily difficult. [help him to express himself, and find his own power - to grow into his adult self-possession.]
encourage him in his friendships - but look out for him as well. he'll miss a lot of good things if he's not encouraged. don't be afraid to let him get hurt. but make sure he learns the right lessons along the way.
above all, be his mother.
like everyone else, each day is a new challenge. some of us have to deal with a few extra along the way.
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does he spontaneously respond to other people's feelings?
auties tend to have difficulty relating to the feelings of others. many are not so good about their own either.
have you asked your doctor why they think your son is autistic? and what their clinical criteria are? [note: in general, diagnosing psychological/psychiatric disorders usually requires appropriate training (aka qualification)]
autism, and especially asperger syndrome, are very popular diagnosically at the moment. they are not simple to identify correctly, and i'd be asking as many questions about the how and why as i could (a good book or two wouldn't hurt, but they won't make you an expert either ;)
bottom line: get the clever people to explain themselves. then watch your son yourself. at the end of the day, with these disorders, how you interact with your son will make more difference than ten expert opinions.
and if he is on the spectrum somewhere, well, it's not the end of the world.